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Wine, Sex & Chill | When to Define the Relationship

Be as honest and as straight forward with your partner as much as you can.

Hello!

Mid week of the last week of April, can whoever is stepping on the accelerator please ease up a little bit. I’ve just been running up and down working and planning a few things, and seeing how things are going, end of here will be here and we shall just be recapping on again.

I am an advocate of talking things over with your partner as this ensures that any hiccups that arise are dealt with.
Matildah and I had a good time discussing this topic and I hope that we helped you understand the importance of being true to what you want.

Do you agree with us? Should you define the relationship in the beginning or later on?

Love,
Jo. ♥

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Wine, Sex & Chill | Sexual Relationships

At times you just need someone to help you escape from the realities, even if it’s just for a while.

Hey, Hey, Hey.

Sex used to just be a form of release for me till I understood what I wanted from the relationships in my life.
It’s okay to love sex, it’s okay to enjoy it. We currently live in a society where everything you do is judge, so why not do what you love and just ignore the judgy Mcjudgy characters who think they know everything.

Being that I’m in my third sexual relationship, I feel like I have enough tips and tricks to share with you what I think about SRs.

In episode 2, I explain what SRs are to me and the lessons I’ve learnt so far.

Leave me a comment and let me know if you’re in an Sexual Relationship and how it’s going for you.

Love,
Jo. ♥

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Wine, Sex & Chill | Let’s Talk About Sex & What Sex is.

I wish I knew what I knew now when I was 16.

Hello! Hello! Hello!

The excitement that is within me is just a bit too much. You know that feeling you used to get on Christmas day when you woke up to presents? Well, this is just like that, but I know it won’t end.

I have always been open to talking about the ‘Taboo’ topics. I never saw the need of hiding them or keeping them behind closed doors because it affects everybody. Especially in an African context ‘The Birds & The Bees’ is a no go zone and then people get shocked when 12 year olds get pregnant, what do you expect if you don’t educate us?

To kick off this conversation, I just wanted to explain what sex is and what it means to me. I have always seen it as a beautiful thing when done right and I am just here as a Psychologist with sexual experience sharing it with you. Sex should no longer be a taboo topic.

Grab your favourite drink, even though its a Monday morning, it should be 5pm somewhere, and let’s have a chat.

I hope you enjoyed the first episode.
If you have any questions do let me know and if you are shy to post it publicly, feel free to message me privately.

Love,
Jo.♥

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2017 Life Lessons + I’m A Graduate.

December 31 2017.

Hello! Hello! Hello!

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It honestly feels as though we blinked and the year just came to an end. If you told me at the beginning of the year that I will be where I am right now, I’d say you are just being mean. I went from being in love and so sure of my relationship to sitting at a new friend’s floor typing this out and just laughing at how comfortable I am being single.

This year has been one of those years where I just want to throw it in a box, lock it and throw the box down into Davy Jones locker, because what the fudge cakes was this year?

I turned 24 in October and I wish I was somewhere different than where I was.
I have never really experienced “rebound sex” and now I have and at a time where I should have been with friends and family, I was faking.
If you follow me on Instagram, you’d know I’m starting a Sex Series on my YouTube channel dubbed “Wine, Sex & Chill” and this rebound was sadly bad sex. I had to wait 3 months for it to be corrected by my new friend, let’s call him Kris ;-). And because of this, I have a new rule “NO SEX IS BETTER THAN BAD SEX.”

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I reconnected with my primary school friends, hey Cashy & Fi.
Between July & October, I pulled away from everyone, I was in a really bad place and very done with the world and when everything came crumbling down I somehow wanted to talk to these two and how I had missed them, 14 years of friendship is no joke and I’m glad I have them in my life.

I’m slowly finding myself.
I have always felt that I was hiding from who I am and keeping what doesn’t appeal to societal norms deep within, but now I’m like fudge it, you know? Hahaha and yes, I am being a good girl and not actually cussing. I am not ashamed of who I am, how I look, how I think or how I feel.

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It’s okay to close a chapter and move on.
I thought I had found love and that he was the one I would spend the rest of my life with, but the universe had another plan and weirdly enough, I have come to terms with that. I am looking at it as life lessons that our 5 year relationship was meant to teach us. I am a different person than the 19 year old he met and I am grateful for what we had and how we grew from our experiences.

Everything has it’s own timing.
I finally got to graduate from the University of Nairobi with my Bachelor of Arts in Psychology degree with a Second Class (Upper Division). My word, the stress that I went through was a bit too much and when my name appeared on the list, I legit cried from happiness. I was so relieved and excited to be done with that phase. I honestly believe that this was the right time for me to graduate, everything in my life education and career wise are falling into place and this is just the first block.

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Enjoy life with all it has to offer.
I know we all want life to be all positive and happy, but we need to accept also the bad days as they show us how strong we are and they are lessons in their own. It’s okay to want to get away from everything and everyone, but don’t dwell on the bad for too long. I like to just get away from the house and do something different.
2 weeks ago, I had a really bad Monday, so on Wednesday, I called up Kris and told him I was coming over. I had planned for a few hours of distraction, but it turned out to be 2 days of something different. And let me not lie to you, I had just met this guy on Tuesday, but there was just something about him that I needed to know. Moral of this is, get out there, experience new things and people, but be safe.

These lessons basically sum up my 2017 and that is also why I took a step from blogging. My blog didn’t excite me anymore, seeing my url with .wordpress.com just made me sad, but I fixed that, now we have justnimu.com *Does Back Flip*. Let me know what you think of the new site, okay?

Happy New Year loves and I hope to see you in 2018.
I have a few goals I want to hit in the new year, but we shall talk about that later.

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Love,
Jo. ♥